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Learning Self-Confidence, How Do You Do That?

“Fool!” “You are worthless!” “You will never succeed!” “You are just not as good as the other person!” What would happen to your self-confidence if an important person told you this? For example your mother or father, a good friend or your favorite teacher, trainer or social worker? Exactly! At the very least your self-confidence will be compromised and you will probably be quite confused for at least the next day.


What do you mean by an important person? I know you talk negatively to yourself. To gain self-confidence, it is essential that you learn to talk positively to yourself. Because how likely is it that you will gain self-confidence if you keep talking to yourself negatively? If you criticize yourself? What happens when you reach your goal if you keep repeating to yourself that this is not feasible for you, that it is not possible or not allowed? One of the main reasons why people do not set their goals, let alone achieve it, is that they have a negative internal dialogue.

Negative internal dialogue is an excellent way to block yourself from ever starting your goal. Regular negative talk to yourself, and especially for important events, is a guaranteed recipe for feeling anxious, insecure or depressed. You will eventually believe what you regularly say to yourself. Whatever you say.

Internal dialogue is like a good friend. If the positive talks to you, you can cheer you and make you feel good or right is doing what you are experiencing resistance at. Every positive word you say to yourself ultimately has a huge impact and increases your inner peace, strength, and self-confidence. But if this good friend talks negatively, it is like a wolf in sheep's clothing. Every word, every sentence and every dialogue that this good friend pronounces is sown in your subconscious.

And your subconscious mind takes it for granted. Words like "worthless" and "dork" are planned as seeds in your subconscious and create a negative feeling, a negative self-image and limiting beliefs about yourself and what you are capable of. Every time you think about your goal and at the same time talk negatively to yourself, you make negative associations between you and your goal. The result is that you let your subconscious work against you to achieve your goal instead of working for you. In the following technique, you will experience that you can change your internal dialogue. That you can make it talk softer, slow or even turn it off completely.


The subconscious works with a simple but powerful principle: it follows instructions. Literal and good. The subconscious mind is like a slave who just does what you say. So be aware of what you are saying. Check for yourself: what do you say to your Self? Is it positive or especially negative? I recently spoke to someone who had little confidence. I asked him the same question: what do you say to yourself? He paused for a few seconds and then started writing. After 1 minute I interrupted him and told him what he had written: "I can't do this," "I'm not good at anything," "I'm stupid" and similar texts.

Mind you: what you say to your Self is literally followed by your subconscious Self. What happens when you say these things to yourself? Do this often enough and you will behave accordingly. Not so surprising that this man's confidence had fallen to a low point. A negative internal dialogue ensures that your bad side comes up. Your insecurities and fears. It causes emotions such as anger, sadness, jealousy, and general negativity. A negative internal dialogue prevents you from being the person you want and can be. It hinders you from getting the most out of yourself and life. It talks negatively about what you can do and who you are. And it talks negatively about others.

A positive internal dialogue makes you feel good. Such an internal dialogue talks positively about yourself and others. About what you can do and who you are. A positive internal dialogue allows you to allow your subconscious to experience emotions such as joy, love, power, self-confidence, inner peace or compassion.

A good friend of mine is always cheerful and positive. I recently asked her what her secret was. She told me that she had given a name to her internal dialogue from childhood. She called her positive internal dialogue "little angel" and her negative internal dialogue she called "little devil". She had learned that whenever the devil wanted to go and be interrupted abruptly by the sweet but powerful angel. It ensured that she had a positive attitude to life, faced challenges with confidence and was not endlessly involved in negative self-talk.

What you say to yourself determines how you feel about yourself. What you do and how you feel. If you constantly talk yourself down, that will also become a reality. You are indeed going to feel negative and worthless. If you think and talk positively about yourself, you will also feel powerful and calm.


Know that our brain is formed by what we regularly think, do and feel. With the emphasis on regular. The more often you run a mental program, the easier it becomes for your brain to do this. So if you regularly run the program of feeling bad, then after a while something has to happen and you feel bad. The more you practice it, the easier it becomes.

What does this have to do with what you say to yourself? Our brain is made up of a large number of associations. This means that the words you speak to yourself activate all the words that have to do with this. And all those words that are activated ensure that this is expressed on an unconscious level in how you feel and what you do. So you say the sentence - even if it is still so fleeting and innocent - "what am I saying stupid" to yourself then it first activates all the words that your subconscious associates with this (for example "slow", "stupid", "you own name ”,“ I ”) and then the behavior and feeling associated with those words.

The result: you feel stupid. And realize that the people in the experiment were not aware that they were walking slower to the elevator. The behavior of walking slowly and the feeling of being old was unintentionally and unintentionally activated. Can you imagine the consequences of your behavior and feelings if you regularly talk to yourself so negatively? In the next section, I will teach you a technique that you can do so easily and yourself and that only takes a few minutes. Do this technique at least once a day for the next 14 days and you will see your confidence jump up.


The following technique is one of the most powerful ways I have come across to boost your confidence quickly and permanently. In the Emotionally-Loaded Pronunciation, you formulate a sentence and you pronounce it in all sorts of ways and stresses. Before you do that you first put yourself in an extreme state of strength and energy and use your entire body.

Step 1. Determine the state of mind you want to experience (more often). For example, strength, self-confidence or energy.

Step 2. See in your mind a symbol for you that corresponds to the desired state of mind. For example a red heart, a knight's sword. Everything that comes to mind is good. Make the symbol as colorful, clear and sharp as possible.

Step 3. Consider your emotionally-charged statement that supports this state of mind.
Example " I feel powerful and full of confidence !"

Step 4. Take action. Get up and bring your body to a high energy level. Walk, move, jump or dance. Bring your entire body into the state of mind that you choose in step 1. Breathe the way you breathe, move the way you move and see the way you look.

Step 5. Then use the same sentence and then with the emphasis on the second word: "I feel powerful and full of confidence!". Do this again 5 times. Until you have placed the emphasis on all words.

Congratulations: your personal statement is now emotionally charged! If you need the previously chosen state of mind, speak you're and see the symbol in front of you. The desired feeling will immediately arise. The more you do this, the more you will anchor your self-confidence in your mind and body.


By integrating different principles, actions, mindsets, and techniques into your life, you can indeed work proactively and permanently on your self-confidence. This is possible, for example, by applying what you have read in this article, which is also covered in various courses!
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